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The ADHD Lie
A personal investigation into diagnosis, identity and responsibility.
I was diagnosed with ADHD just before I turned forty, and it changed my life. It answered questions I’d been asking for decades. But it also created entirely new ones. Somewhere along the way, I realised that we have become very good at blaming ADHD for things that are actually the result of years of shame, rejection, conditioning and survival. That’s not about denying ADHD – it’s about understanding it properly.
This newsletter is my personal investigation into what ADHD really is, what it isn’t, and how we separate our brain from the habits we’ve built around it. We explore rejection sensitivity, masking, impulsivity, relationships, money, identity, talking too much, emotional regulation and neuroplasticity. Above all, it’s about taking back responsibility without taking on blame, because those are two very different things.